I love being a mom of boys - girls are so damned catty!
I've dealt with so much DRAMA in the past week, it was like every woman I knew (and many that I don't know, and don't CARE to know!) were all PMS-ing at the same time.
FRG stuff, friend stuff, Facebook stuff, and even Blog stuff.
I blogged just a couple days ago about "Semper Spouse", a blog just for Marine Wives. It was started by a few (four, I think?) Marine Wife Bloggers to inspire, support, and bring together the blog community of Marine Wives. Those same organizers shut it down overnight, because of an irresponsible (poorly worded?) post written by one of the group's founders yesterday. Or rather, because of the outrage that said post inspired in the blogging community.
Her post was about OPSEC, and if you actually did read the whole thing, YES her point of view was wrong/short-sighted/narrow-minded/selfish, but I was struck more by the 100+ mean and nasty comments that she got. My own comment to her told her what I was pretty sure she needed to hear (and this was later confirmed)....that I understand her frustration with OPSEC, and I hate it too - but I do follow it anyway. It goes against everything in me to keep my mouth shut about ANYTHING, so following OPSEC is that much harder for me. I get it. I think it would have been easier for other readers of the blog to 'get it' if she hadn't included the inflammatory stuff at the end, about the big "middle finger to OPSEC" etc. but still...I did read the ENTIRE post, and I got what she was trying to say. She was FRUSTRATED, and was reaching out for support in the only way she knew how.
And before you all freak out on me like you did on Semper Spouse yesterday, I DO UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF OPSEC!!!!! I RESPECT IT FOR WHAT IT IS, and if anyone else's lack of respect for OPSEC ever hurt - or even inconvenienced my husband and his unit, I would hunt that girl down.....
Also, my dear husband absoultely understands what a blabbermouth he married, so he is very careful about what details he even shares with me, not wanting to put me in a position of responsibility if he isn't sure I can handle it.
I will say that I have gotten better at this over the years, but still - it is just not in my nature to keep quiet. Hence the blog. Not just one, but TWO for right now! This one, for all things deployment-related, and my pregnancy blog, chronicling my current pregnancy.
But, seriously girls, if you all wanted to get your own point across to "Alpha Wife" from Semper Spouse, did you really have to get so mean and nasty about it? I get that you were all mad - and rightfully so - at her careless attitude about this. I just was more-than-a-little embarrassed to think that for a moment I would ever be lumped in with the catty, no, downright BITCHY group of women I witnessed in yesterday's attack via the comments on Semper Spouse.
Some of those throwing names and foul language at her (in excess) were my own blog followers.
I did note 2 or 3 'tactful' responses from some of the bloggers I happen to follow and love, and they were able to express their disapproval of the POINT OF VIEW without actually calling this girl names or insulting her, her husband, or his command. To those few, THANK YOU for being tactful. I am pretty sure she got your point, as indicated in the dozens of apologies that she posted on that same comments page before it was permanently shut down.
To the rest, YOU OUGHT TO BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELVES! Your bitchy behavior, in the name of 'being supportive' did not reflect well on any of your husbands, and I pray that none of my sweet boys grows up to marry catty and mean girls like you!
Now, let the comment flurry begin. (but can we please keep this round TACTFUL and respectful?)