Wednesday, April 14, 2010

every cloud has a silver lining

I sometimes wonder where I would be today if I had not met and married my Marine. I can say without a doubt that he is my soul-mate, my other half – but I know plenty of people who have never met their soul-mate and yet are still ‘happy’. Or some version of happy. So I ask myself, could I have had a happy life without this man? Without the joy and the angst he brings me?

I don’t think so.

But since the next several months will be filled with more angst than joy, as he will be 6000+ miles away, I am looking for ways to focus on the positive and remember how to at least PRETEND to be happy in his absence.

So, to that end, here is a list of all the *good* things about deployment (I know, they are dramatically overshadowed by the bad things, but I’m trying to be POSITIVE! Work with me here.)

In no particular order:

1) During deployment, I can toss and turn as much as I need to for the half hour or hour that it normally takes for me to fall asleep.

2) During deployment, I can leave my dirty clothes on the floor in my bathroom, or wherever I choose to undress, until I am ready to wash them – no more worrying about getting it into that pesky laundry hamper!

3) During deployment, I can watch whatever girly-shows I want to on TV! (after I wrestle the remote away from my sons, of course) I can even hold the remote.

4) During deployment, I can have TOTAL SILENCE in the house if I choose – at least, while the kids are in school.

5) During deployment, I will only wash about HALF of the usual amount of laundry (since hubby’s laundry tends to be as much as mine and the boys’ put together, between his uniforms and his civilian clothes)

6) During deployment, I can have people OVER. This one is big, since hubby only lets me do this a few times a year – and I LOVE entertaining!

7) During deployment, I can leave my srapbooking projects sitting out for DAYS at a time with no one to complain about my clutter.

8) During deployment, I can eat cereal for breakfast EVERY MORNING if I want to (the kids prefer this and I hate doing dishes, so I enjoy the break from cooking hubby a hot breakfast every morning)

9) During deployment, if I don’t feel like blowdrying my hair, or putting on makeup, or even shaving my legs, NO ONE WILL CARE. No one will even notice, most likely

10) During deployment, we can have breakfast FOR DINNER – something hubby thinks is just inherently wrong. I’m talking waffles, eggs, turkey bacon, the works!

I will be adding to this list as I come up with more ideas – what is your favorite ‘silver lining’ about deployment?


Renee said...

Thanks for sharing the silver lining of deployment! I needed that!

Amber said...

Of course there are PRO's and CON's to them should see my house right now. It looks like a tornado has hit the inside of it! And we have cereal for breakfast AND dinner more times then none during the week!

Enjoy your time left with him:) Cuddle him extra tight at night, so your baby can kick your hubby in his back at night!

Laura said...

I can leave the dishes in the sink for as long as I want and don't have to listen to the little "ahem, this kitchen is a mess" coming from the man who never helps me clean them anyways lol. And I got another cat. I figure, by the time he comes home, the cat will be so embedded in the fabric of the home that he won't be allowed to protest.

Gaile said...

Oh yes, I just thought of two more GOOD ones! I was going to save them for a future 'silver lining' post, but I am afraid I will forget - two things I love to do, but really CAN'T when hubby is home:
1) READ in bed til I fall asleep (I love my Kindle!)
2) KARAOKE baby! I'm totally having a girls night in sometime soon so we can get into the Karaoke challenge video games again. This is how I celebrated my birthday last year, while hubby was away training at Ft Irwin. :)

Wife on the Roller Coaster said...

What a great post! I too look for the silver lining during deployments. Gotta get through it somehow, right? My favorite is one of yours...leaving my clutter sitting around. I have a million post-it notes and legal pads at the ready for writing ideas. Now that hubby is gone, I don't feel the need to clear off my desk and hide everything that I'm just going to pull out the next day again. Oh, the laundry too. So much less!

Keep smiling!

Dani said...

Great post, you found lots of silver linings there! I love leaving my scrapbook supplies out for days on end, lol. You can only do that when you live alone or have your own space!

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